Don’t invite me to your marriage

Wedding is a private issue. Why to have an annoying crowd gathering?

If you think ‘Who is inviting you?’, then fine, scroll away from the screen but scroll down if you want to know the reason. 

To do anything in life one will have a reason which is either built by his knowledge gathering process or induced in shortcut by people and surroundings around him. I whichever way, partially or completely, mystically or rationally, the reason is the basis of all human actions (the reason might be stupid, that’s a different argument).

So now coming to the reason of why people make weddings a huge event and why people attend weddings. The grandeur attached to weddings is because of two reasons

1. It’s the one big event which both the groom and bride have dreamt of since their childhood and it’s also a big prestige issue for their parents.
2. Bigger the event, bigger the proof of approval from society for those two individuals to live together and share emotional, financial, physical, and sexual resources without feeling social guilt.

So why I don’t like to attend weddings has many reasons. Read if you are interested to know them…

1. I honestly feel pity by seeing all the unnatural ambiance in a wedding where right from one year old kid to 80 year old are bored with the same repetitive style of weddings. 
2. The feudal setup of younger ones obeying elders, serving them, accommodating them, and taking constant concern is out of my league. My treatment would be completely opposite.
3. When two people are getting married for whatever reasons they have, I can’t become one in thousand guests for them. If I have personal connection with the groom or bride, I will visit them after their marriage, have lunch with them and give my wedding present. It’s actually when they are living together, I can understand whether their marriage can be celebrated or not.
4. Every time people talk about marriage budgets, I will compare it to my required budgets for making short films, web series, or feature films. 
5. Indian middle-class marriages and the hosts can never provide satisfactory hospitality to the guests. Except for affluent people, marriages and other family functions are punishment for guests because no one really care of them or makes arrangements for them. I hate that way of inviting and insulting people which is so so prevalent in our country.
6. People who behave as if their biggest high in the world is wedding buffet. I can’t be spending time with obcessive food lovers.
7. A wedding is the highest symbol of hypocrisy in its society. It’s a place where everyone acts exactly opposed to what they feel inside, mingles with people they strongly hate, do the things they don’t want to, to get those results which really don’t matter after a week.
8. Last but not least, in 90% of marriages, I don’t see the compatibility of couple. They don’t seem like bride and groom for me; I will either see a forced smile on their faces or I will see people who don’t have a soul. 

And for what all points of view, as a reader, you can have in reverse, they are also vaild, but only and only when you feel as intensely as I’m feeling about my points of view. Because in the end, intensity makes all the difference in life.
To conclude, I would finish by saying my most signature statement. ‘I never stand by my words’ because tomorrow is new and I might experience new things to change today’s decisions because today becomes yesterday for tomorrow.
I might attend a wedding for 2 reasons in my current knowledge.

1. If the wedding might have many beautiful girls…and the beauty lover inside me overtakes the philosopher
2. If it’s a love marriage or to be precise, if it’s a marriage where I feel the couple is compatible for each other and got together because of higher values than money, caste, and physical attraction.

Think twice before you think of inviting me for marriage.