Only when you delete old friends, life will introduce exciting people.
You should have people in your life but those need not be same forever
You might have had pretty enough breakups in your life including with your girlfriend, boyfriend, friends, relatives, and so on. You might have experienced a baggage of many emotions for each breakup but the undebatable aspect in all the episodes is the time period where you feel bad about losing a person from your social bucket.
Human life, as it’s experienced, is perceived only with the combination of 3 basic elements; Time, Space, and Energy.
Space-When you study your primary studies in a town, secondary school in another town, you go abroad for graduation and work for an MNC in a distant cosmopolitan city, you won’t have an attachment problem because you will get habituated to making friends and enemies and losing them as you move on to new places.
Energy- Do you remember going out with your filthy rich friend? You might have felt you are in the wrong place even if your friend treated utmost well. Economic gap is an irreplaceable barrier and makes sure people from different income levels never come closer. When a person’s economic levels keep growing, the attachment problems are never an issue because they will recycle themselves i.e. when the person keeps meeting new people as he grows, old people will automatically drop away without much complaining.
Time- It’s this which all the middle-class feudal people struggle with. When you live in the same place all your life- studying and working nearby, when your economic levels don’t change significantly, you keep swivelling in the painful drama. You will have the same group of people around you who keep shifting between the friend and enemy circles. Only after a lot of time, maybe after growing a little older, people might realize how stupid they were to cling on to people and labelling them as friends or enemies.
On an overall, the only thing one has to understand is – life is a dynamic act, it’s not static. It’s humans who make it static with rigid beliefs. Living in the same place and economic levels for years together is a big blunder you have to rectify immediately. At least, you can change your place easily or change the people who you interact with.
Human relations are very blissful if you keep moving along with their dynamic nature. You shouldn’t be alone, you should have people in your life but those people need not be same forever. You will different classmates in different levels of your education; similarly, you will have different connections in various life stages. Problems and pain come only when you think a particular person has to be with you all along your journey.
Next time when you make a new friend, remember to have a good time and move on with your journey when your roads get separated. New friends are waiting for you over there. Everything is limited- only when you delete old friends, life will introduce new and exciting people.
Landelin Baltazary
December 13, 2018 @ 6:44 pm
Got a lot
Sharath Chandra
December 24, 2018 @ 2:55 pm
You have to remove many of them to give room for genuine ones.