Motherhood is glorified by societies but there’s other side to it

Motherhood is glorified by societies from the time the human race was born. The emotion between a mother and her child is not debatable. The divine bond is held high by all religions, authors, scholars, and thought leaders. However, the realities were often left undiscussed leaving a little space for women to share their pains openly.

Any great gift comes with its own challenges including motherhood. Any woman is a human being first and considerable number of women feel the anxiety of being a parent, raisng a child, and all the struggle involved in the process.

In a bid to praise the emotion of motherhood and adding euphoria to the role of a mother, the societies at large miss the fundamental realities i.e there’s no magic involved. It’s a new phase and a transition for a human being. Many women go through post-partum depression, anxiety for pregnancy, and sleepless nights of raising a newborn, constant tussle for dealing with teenagers, and so on. After giving birth to a child, the body changes entirely, it’s never the same again. Apart from several other challenges, Human birth is many times at the cost of a woman’s beauty.

I’ve seen handful of women in my life who went through severe post-partum depression. But it was nit discussed with their husbands, in-laws or parents even. The surprising thing is that they don’t realize the seriousness of it and try to manage it themselves when they need the support of a psychotherapist. They take their frustration over their husbands, in-laws, and sometimes friends, and personal life is too strained at the cost of becoming a mother. If there were discussions about these, people would understand her problems and handle her gently.

But what happens is the family shouts back, friends give it back, and she has additional responsibility with the new born. It’s not as romantic as it’s depicted in movies or popular novels. When a teenage son becomes an addict, when a daughter goes through teenage pregancy, how will the mother handle the situation? Did any time ever, did any family talk such things? They think it just happens to others. No surprises and challenges are impartial, they can arrive at anyone’s door anytime.

In all due respect what I would say is, the divine emotion of motherhood is already highlighted from centuries and millennia. But it’s time to understand its challenges and spread awareness about it.

The biggest tribute anyone give to a mother is to stop looking at her like God and treat her like a Human being, lovable at the same time vulnerable.