Who wants Love- All we need is Money! (or beauty)
Your partner is with you not just because of Love. It’s because he/she couldn’t find a better option.
It’s a fair game for 90% of people (leave about the 10% melodramatic category). Boys look for beauty and girls look for money and the sugarcoated name for this mutual deal is named ‘Love’. Love has a lot of forms but exclusively love between a boy and a girl is special and stands out. It’s a huge topic but this is an overview. According to me, it has 3 stages. The Start, the Development and Marriage/Breakup.
The Start- How the hormones bring them together
As one gets into adolescence, he/she gets the feeling to attract the opposite gender and they wait for the chance. It may be hard sometimes, but after they get a chance they approach the trial partner. The main thing here at this age is ego-satisfaction. A boy wants a girl to care for him, to tell him safety measures, to wait for his replies, to cry for him in odd times etc. Similarly, a girl wants a boy in her life to share her secrets, get mental support, to talk about her new dog, to enjoy the flirting complements and etc. Finally, by chance, they come into each other’s lives and get indulged in feelings that lead to love. Above all, the need to satisfy their desires will the hidden primary reason because it’s in teenage, the sexual awakening happens and hormones will function at their peaks.
The Development- How they build expectations for each other
It’s all like a high narcotic which gives both of them all floating kick. As the graph of feeling reaches its parabolic peak, there comes the question of marriage! Addicted to the kick, they think of getting it for whole life. If one of them is not reliant to commitment, it’s the end of it clearly. But if it’s okay on both sides, then its the Development stage. Both of them make promises, make plans about honeymoon and children, about all the post-marriage scenarios up to 70 years of age. The base for all of this is the promises they make every day to reconfirm about their living-together. If they marry its a different game.
Finally one of them becomes a Love Failure (even if they marry)
In any love, which is built upon attraction, there is a lot of effort and action to impress the other half. It may be in dressing style, hairstyle, body language, the philosophy they speak, the way they behave, and everything else for that matter. These things build huge expectations on both sides. But once they marry and take the partner for granted, they slowly stop all the things which they used to impress the other one. So as they can’t reach the expectations, the problem creeps in. “I imagined so high about you, but you are not that” this kind of cries begin. They adjust, repair the relation or take divorce. Am just telling the problem.
Boys become Love Failures because girls marry early. Girls breakup because of over-possessive boyfriends
If the love fails and leads to break up, generally boys become love failures because girls get married sooner. The behaviour is so extreme that either he builds a temple for her or be a psycho to harass her. Girls are more adaptable to situations and boys have higher inertia. Girls take a long time to step in love, so they take less time to forget. That quality is awesome anyways and should be admired. Some marry for parents’ prestige, some for money, some for handsomeness and some for going abroad. Many times, they might have loved the wrong one who is over-possessive and controlling, who is irresponsible etc. They will have their reasons. It also applies to boys but Indian girls are forced for marriage by their parents and all with the reason they marry soon. In some cases, lovers’ characters are assassinated by their friends cum gossipers who inside are actually jealous of not having a lover.
How a Love failure (boy) dreams that his Ex is thinking of him
The behaviour of a love failure (boy) is interesting. He keeps on talking about his Ex. the promises she made, the depth of their love, the nostalgic moments etc. etc. I have heard some people saying “If you settle well or achieve big, your ex will regret missing you”. It’s not the reality because no one looks back on you about what you are doing. They are busy with their own tensions and troubles. They just do not give a damn about your life. Anything you do, only counts to yourself.
Who wants Love- All we need is money!
My theory is love which comes from friendship is highest in the strength of the bond because love is a passing cloud. It comes and goes now and then. But the mature understanding gives a very strong base for love. But seriously, who wants that. All we need is money or beauty. Let’s maintain our clarity.
For all the research I have made on love, it’s a high emotion which has to be driven by extreme concentration and a clear understanding of reality. If you just close your eyes and believe the world is beautiful and your love is going to be forever, then one day you will fall from the sky and your backbone will break.
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