Why Indian Men are not finding a girl to marry- Part 1

It’s a brand new phase in India where 90% of the men are facing a scarcity of women while searching for a prospective bride to marry. Their pain and agony are shared by their parents who are almost bizarre about this unexpected situation of female dominance in society. As they hail from a patriarchal life experience when they were born and married, this new phase came across as a shock and undigestible thing to gallop rather than swallow.

Why this anti-marriage phase now here has simple reasons behind it. This post is a continuation of my earlier post ‘Why the love marriage trend declined in India after 2010’. So I cover here the reasons for men are stressed out about a simple aspect of life. I will discuss one reason per video

1. Women’s parents saw the advantage of their daughters’ income

Until this generation, the percentage of working women was less in society and teacher jobs and clerk jobs are mostly the white collar jobs available for women. Things changed in the last 20 years. Women have infiltrated every sector and the booming economy aided them in employment opportunities. IT revolution fetched them jobs and salaries which were never imagined before. There are many positive sides to every reason discussed here but this post focuses on the flip sides. 

Over time, parents of girls, who earlier used to worry about having a girl child, educate her, look for a good match, bear the dowry and marriage expenses, in summary, who saw the daughter as a burden and liability, saw their daughter as a lucrative income source in the turn of events.

So marrying her off early means losing the chance to enjoy her income early. Girls who grow up with so much emotional attachment to parents, who put ‘dad’s princess’, ‘mamma’s girl’, ‘papa’s princess forever’ as Instagram ids, developed more than required attachment to parents to the extent of planning their old age, buying pension and life insurance plans, giving away a share of their income every month, and buying them home also. 

Now women’s parents tell the girl that they are looking for the best match for their beloved daughter and reject all matches for the same reason to extend her spinster, single life. The daughter will either become an emotional fool or has plans to enjoy her single life in the metro. At last, when it’s on the edge, the parents will marry her to a most naive, innocent, desperate, boring, bald, aged bridegroom who will never question them back for anything and who will also give them his money.