You need not become a mother if you don’t want to
If you can’t be a happy mother, you have the right to be honest about it.
If you are an individual girl of your own kind you would have at least wondered once- Girls (your friends or family members) suddenly become women after marriage and women suddenly become the best mothers after they have a kid or two. How is this transition possible overnight? Yes you are right, not everyone is wired the same way. If you don’t want to be a biological mother, there’s absolutely nothing wrong in it.
There are many women who are passionate about becoming a mother. But let’s look at other side of it which is rarely debated.
Morally arrested people, especially women, are trained to a level where the emotions they experience inside their mind are also as expected by the majority. If a woman doesn’t love her husband after an arranged marriage, she won’t reveal it openly instead constantly recites ‘I love my husband’. She does it with the hope that constant practice will one day make it habitual forever to love somebody you actually don’t love.
The husband will be in an urge to prove his masculinity and the wife falls into the trap of proving her femininity and motherhood.
A husband makes his wife a mother in an urge to prove his masculinity to the world. But the wife will take all the responsibility to raise the kid for this feudal cause and in the process if someone happens to hate the process of raising a child or gets vexed with her life,..(this is interesting) she constantly recites ‘My kid is my world’, “He/she is gift of God’, ‘My life is dedicated to him’ in the hope of getting habituated to their life. It’s because no one can do a job for a long-time hating it daily. So this constant training gives them a little relief.
A woman wears all the hats for everyone except for herself and her selfish happiness.
A girl with many dreams marries for her parents, becomes a mother for her husband, becomes a household maid for her aunt and uncle, becomes a housewife for her kids, then she becomes a representative of feudalism advocating the same life to other women of next generations. if some girl breaks the norm as they are witnessing these women try to assassinate her character out of the accumulated jealousy for not being able to live like her. When we are at the dead end in life, we can’t see someone jumping over the wall or blasting the wall.
A mother knows the real face of her children when she becomes old and useless (in their point of view)
When the children grow up and when they finally get they want from father/mother then they start showing their original colours and it’s when the so-called Mother gets disillusioned by the facts what she already knows for more than 4 decades. One common code is imposed on society at large without considering any individual thoughts and feelings, it’s called feudalism and women are made symbols to it only because their weakness- “Once they become a mother, they fall into the trap of emotions”
To all the women out there who have grown up in feudal families, these are my clear and straight messages
- Your father treats you like a hot property that can easily take forward the feudal culture with a profitable marriage deal.
- Your mother wants you to be in the limits of feudal culture for she didn’t have the guts to break out of it and fears that she can’t handle if you break the culture.
- For your husband and co.(family) you are an item to be displayed publicly, a thing to show off to enhance their prestige, social reputation, and ego satisfaction.
- Finally, beware of your children. They are big bastards who leech away all your life and throw you out on the streets when you become old, weak, and seem useless to them.
Open your eyes wide open and be your boldest version. This might be called negativity and pessimism but remember the darkest gloomy things happen behind the smiles and laughter that happen in family gatherings. Only when you know those dark aspects of feudalism you will understand how you are wasting your life. If you can’t be a happy mother, you have the right to be honest about it and to take your decision.
If you are suffering in feudalism or fake life, this is the time to break free.
Getting carried away by the happy-faced people is the norm that happens to the majority of conventional women who have a rebel inside them. To those who are stuck in feudalism, ‘This article is for you’. You can think of it, take a decision and start living for yourself and your dreams.
